i have a toddler daughter, that brings joy n pleasure to my home, she's is simply amazing, i discovered that being my first child, i had to learn about how to take proper care of her
in my quest as a mum, i found useful website and materials. i dedicate this section to my angel.
Friday, September 30, 2011
Is your toddler ready?
Most parents eagerly anticipate toilet training as a
milestone in their child's development, if for no other reason than that it
means an end to changing diapers. But few moms and dads are prepared for how
long toilet training can take. Sure, some children master it within a few days,
but others can take several months. In fact, it's generally true that the
earlier you start, the longer it takes.
You and your child have a better chance of success if you understand the elements of training and approach the process in a clear fashion. Here are the basic steps:
You and your child have a better chance of success if you understand the elements of training and approach the process in a clear fashion. Here are the basic steps:
Some children are ready to start potty training by 18 months
or so, but others aren't interested in the process until they're closer to 3
years old. Many parents begin potty training when their children are about 2
and a half.
Watch for signs that your toddler is ready to start (can she follow simple instructions? can she walk and sit down?) but try not to put on the pressure. Rushing her when she's not ready will be counterproductive. And remember that what worked for your older child might not work for this one — boys tend to train a bit more slowly than girls, while second (and subsequent) children may learn more quickly than firstborns.
Watch for signs that your toddler is ready to start (can she follow simple instructions? can she walk and sit down?) but try not to put on the pressure. Rushing her when she's not ready will be counterproductive. And remember that what worked for your older child might not work for this one — boys tend to train a bit more slowly than girls, while second (and subsequent) children may learn more quickly than firstborns.
buy the right
equipment
First and foremost, invest in a child-sized potty chair or a
special adapter seat that attaches to your regular toilet. This eases the
anxiety some children feel about the grown-up toilet — some fear falling into
it, others dislike the loud noise of the flush. Figure out what equipment is
best for your toddler before you go shopping.
If you have a boy and are buying a potty chair, look for one without a urine guard or with a removable one. You may have to wipe up a little more stray pee, but the guards tend to bump into and scrape a boy's penis when he sits on the potty, which can discourage him from training.
If you're using an adapter seat, make sure it's comfy and secure, and buy a stool to go with it. Your toddler will need the stool in order to get up and down from the toilet quickly and easily, as well as to brace her feet while sitting, which helps her push when she's having a bowel movement.
If you have a boy and are buying a potty chair, look for one without a urine guard or with a removable one. You may have to wipe up a little more stray pee, but the guards tend to bump into and scrape a boy's penis when he sits on the potty, which can discourage him from training.
If you're using an adapter seat, make sure it's comfy and secure, and buy a stool to go with it. Your toddler will need the stool in order to get up and down from the toilet quickly and easily, as well as to brace her feet while sitting, which helps her push when she's having a bowel movement.
Set your toddler on the potty seat, fully clothed, once a day
— after breakfast, before her bath, or whenever else she's likely to have a
bowel movement. This will help her get used to the potty and accept it as part
of her routine. If there's not an easily accessible bathroom around, bring your
child's portable potty outside, to the playroom, or wherever your toddler may
be.
Once she's fine with this routine, have her sit on the potty bare-bottomed. Again, let her get used to how this feels. At this point, let her know that this is what Mommy and Daddy (and any older siblings) do every day. That is, taking off your pants before you use the bathroom is a grown-up thing to do.
If sitting on the potty with or without clothes is upsetting to your toddler, don't push it. Never restrain her or physically force her to sit there, especially if she seems scared. It's better to put the potty aside for a few weeks before trying again. Then, if she's willing to sit there, you know she's comfortable enough to proceed.
Once she's fine with this routine, have her sit on the potty bare-bottomed. Again, let her get used to how this feels. At this point, let her know that this is what Mommy and Daddy (and any older siblings) do every day. That is, taking off your pants before you use the bathroom is a grown-up thing to do.
If sitting on the potty with or without clothes is upsetting to your toddler, don't push it. Never restrain her or physically force her to sit there, especially if she seems scared. It's better to put the potty aside for a few weeks before trying again. Then, if she's willing to sit there, you know she's comfortable enough to proceed.
Children learn by imitation, and watching you use the bathroom
is a natural way to understand what using the toilet is all about. If you have
a son, it's simpler to teach him topee
sitting down at this young age. Later, when he's mastered that,
he can watch his dad, older brother, or friend pee standing up — he's bound to
pick it up quickly with just a little encouragement.
When you demonstrate for your toddler, it's helpful to explain what's going on as you're using the bathroom and let her see afterward what you "made." Then show her how you wipe with toilet paper, pull up your underwear, flush the toilet, and wash your hands.
Even though you'll be helping your toddler with these activities for some time, especially wiping after a bowel movement, seeing you do it and hearing you talk through it will help her get used to the whole process. (When you wipe your toddler, make sure to go from front to back, especially after a bowel movement, to minimize the risk of urinary tract infections.)
If your toddler has older siblings or friends who are potty-trained, consider having them demonstrate, too. It can be helpful for your child to see others close to her age exhibiting the skills she's trying to learn.
When you demonstrate for your toddler, it's helpful to explain what's going on as you're using the bathroom and let her see afterward what you "made." Then show her how you wipe with toilet paper, pull up your underwear, flush the toilet, and wash your hands.
Even though you'll be helping your toddler with these activities for some time, especially wiping after a bowel movement, seeing you do it and hearing you talk through it will help her get used to the whole process. (When you wipe your toddler, make sure to go from front to back, especially after a bowel movement, to minimize the risk of urinary tract infections.)
If your toddler has older siblings or friends who are potty-trained, consider having them demonstrate, too. It can be helpful for your child to see others close to her age exhibiting the skills she's trying to learn.
Show your toddler the connection between pooping and the
toilet. The next time she poops in her diaper, take her to the potty, sit her
down, and empty the diaper beneath her into the bowl. Afterward, let her flush
if she wants to (but don't force her if she's scared) so she can watch her
diaper contents disappear.
You also may want to pick up a few potty-training picture books or videos for your toddler, which can assist her in taking in all this new information. Everyone Poops, by Taro Gomi, is a perennial favorite, as well as Uh Oh! Gotta Go! and Once Upon a Potty, which even comes in a version with a doll and miniature potty.
Keeping a book like this in the bathroom, or a poster or flipbook that illustrates the steps in using the potty, can help your toddler get familiar with the process and relate it to what she does in the bathroom.
You also may want to pick up a few potty-training picture books or videos for your toddler, which can assist her in taking in all this new information. Everyone Poops, by Taro Gomi, is a perennial favorite, as well as Uh Oh! Gotta Go! and Once Upon a Potty, which even comes in a version with a doll and miniature potty.
Keeping a book like this in the bathroom, or a poster or flipbook that illustrates the steps in using the potty, can help your toddler get familiar with the process and relate it to what she does in the bathroom.
Encourage your toddler to sit on the potty whenever she feels
the urge to go. If she needs help getting there and taking off her diaper, make
sure she knows it's okay to ask you for help any time.
If you can, let her run around bare-bottomed sometimes with the potty nearby. The more time she spends out of diapers, the faster she's likely to learn, although you'll have to steel yourself to clean up a few more puddles. Tell her she can use the potty whenever she wants to, and remind her occasionally that it's there if she needs it.
Sometimes toddlers won't sit on the potty long enough to relax and let anything come out. Calmly encourage your toddler to sit there for at least a minute or so. You'll have the best luck getting her to stay put if you keep her company and talk to her or read her a book.
When your toddler uses the potty successfully, shower her with praise. Chances are that she'll continue to have accidents, but she'll start to grasp that getting something in the potty is an accomplishment. Still, try not to make a big deal out of every trip to the potty, or your toddler may start to feel nervous and self-conscious under the glare of all that attention.
If you can, let her run around bare-bottomed sometimes with the potty nearby. The more time she spends out of diapers, the faster she's likely to learn, although you'll have to steel yourself to clean up a few more puddles. Tell her she can use the potty whenever she wants to, and remind her occasionally that it's there if she needs it.
Sometimes toddlers won't sit on the potty long enough to relax and let anything come out. Calmly encourage your toddler to sit there for at least a minute or so. You'll have the best luck getting her to stay put if you keep her company and talk to her or read her a book.
When your toddler uses the potty successfully, shower her with praise. Chances are that she'll continue to have accidents, but she'll start to grasp that getting something in the potty is an accomplishment. Still, try not to make a big deal out of every trip to the potty, or your toddler may start to feel nervous and self-conscious under the glare of all that attention.
Once training is under way, consider adding
training pants — extra-thick cloth or disposables that pull on
like underwear — to your routine. They'll allow your toddler to undress for the
potty on her own, which is a critical step toward becoming completely
potty-trained.
While cloth training pants are less convenient than disposable pull-ups, many parents say they work better because your toddler can really feel when she pees or poops in them. Whichever option you choose, introduce them gradually — probably for a few hours at a time — and stick with diapers at night for the time being.
When your child consistently seeks out the potty whenever she has to go, it's time to move on to "big-kid" underwear. Many moms and dads have found that undies with a favorite character on them give kids a dandy incentive to stay dry.
While cloth training pants are less convenient than disposable pull-ups, many parents say they work better because your toddler can really feel when she pees or poops in them. Whichever option you choose, introduce them gradually — probably for a few hours at a time — and stick with diapers at night for the time being.
When your child consistently seeks out the potty whenever she has to go, it's time to move on to "big-kid" underwear. Many moms and dads have found that undies with a favorite character on them give kids a dandy incentive to stay dry.
Virtually every child will have several accidents before
being able to stay dry all day long. When this happens, don't get angry or
punish your child. After all, it's only recently that her muscle development
has allowed her to hold her bladder and rectum closed at all, and she's still
learning why it's important to use the potty. Mastering the process will take
time.
What can you do? Reduce the chance of accidents by dressing your toddler in clothes that are easy to remove quickly. When she has an accident anyway, calmly clean it up and suggest (sweetly) that next time she try using her potty instead.
What can you do? Reduce the chance of accidents by dressing your toddler in clothes that are easy to remove quickly. When she has an accident anyway, calmly clean it up and suggest (sweetly) that next time she try using her potty instead.
Don't give away that stash of diapers just yet. Even when
your child is consistently clean and dry all day, it may take several more
months, or even years, for her to stay dry all night. At this age, her body is
still too immature to wake her up in the middle of the night reliably just to
go to the bathroom.
When you're ready to embark on night training, your toddler should continue to wear a diaper or pull-up to bed, but encourage her to use the potty if she has to pee or poop during the night. Tell her that if she wakes up in the middle of the night needing to go, she can call you for help. You can also try putting her potty near her bed so she can use it right there.
If she manages to stay dry for five nights in a row, it's a good time to start nighttime trainingin earnest. Put a plastic sheet under the cloth one to protect the mattress, and put your toddler to bed in underwear (or nothing) and see how it goes.
There's not much you can do to help things along, short of limiting liquids before bedtime, so if your toddler doesn't seem to get the hang of it, put her back in nighttime diapers and try again in a few months.
When you're ready to embark on night training, your toddler should continue to wear a diaper or pull-up to bed, but encourage her to use the potty if she has to pee or poop during the night. Tell her that if she wakes up in the middle of the night needing to go, she can call you for help. You can also try putting her potty near her bed so she can use it right there.
If she manages to stay dry for five nights in a row, it's a good time to start nighttime trainingin earnest. Put a plastic sheet under the cloth one to protect the mattress, and put your toddler to bed in underwear (or nothing) and see how it goes.
There's not much you can do to help things along, short of limiting liquids before bedtime, so if your toddler doesn't seem to get the hang of it, put her back in nighttime diapers and try again in a few months.
Believe it or not, when your child is mentally and physically
ready to learn this new skill, she will. And if you wait until she's really
ready to start, the process shouldn't be too painful for either of you.
When it's over, reinforce her pride in her achievement by letting her give away leftover diapers to a family with younger kids, or by packing up the cloth diapers and sending them away with the diaper delivery service one last time.
And don't forget to pat yourself on the back. Now you won't have to think about diapers ever again — at least, not until the next baby.
When it's over, reinforce her pride in her achievement by letting her give away leftover diapers to a family with younger kids, or by packing up the cloth diapers and sending them away with the diaper delivery service one last time.
And don't forget to pat yourself on the back. Now you won't have to think about diapers ever again — at least, not until the next baby.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Tolu Odukoya ft Onyeka Onwenu - Gifted and proud
Friday, August 26, 2011
The horror basement where sisters were raped for 41 years by their father and slowly went mad
This is the disgusting dungeon where an Austrian man violated his own daughters in a nightmare spanning 15,000 days and nights.
'If you fight back, then I will kill you,' Gottfried W. told his children Christine, 53, and Erika, 45, who were forced to sleep at night on a wooden shelf while their father, now 80, snoozed in a feather bed.
Amid farming implements, old oil drums, wood, cement sacks and filth he violated his own flesh and blood with a depravity on a par with Josef Fritzl.
His wife Berta, 85, passed away in 2008. She too was a victim of the former council labourer's sadism, beaten like them with a stick and poked with a pitchfork. Go here if you want more information
Friday, August 19, 2011
This is a must see
This is a detailed report from Aljazeera report, it shows the degree of poverty, not poverty of material needs but poverty of the heart. so sad
Thursday, August 11, 2011
I have a formed a new habit
if you are a lagosian and you board or commute daily in public transport or popularly called DANFO then you would need to innovate ways to distract yourself from the stress and hassle of conductors, danfo drivers, frustrated passengers, lasma , agberos , and the police.
So what do I do? I just find a comfortable seat and plug in my headset and listen to music, today I did the same and I was nodding to the song and the woman seating by my side was just starring at me wondering why am not affected by the noise around me.
I decided to be nice and share the particular song I was listening to.
It is a song by Mary Mary , titled God in Me
i just wanna tell the truth maine [x4]
Verse 1:
Your so fly, your so high
Everybody rinnin tryna figure out why
your so cool you been all the time
eveywhere you go man you get alot of shine
your like a magnet betta yet a habit
every thing you wear people say they gotta have it
from the sweatsuit
to the white tee
to the gucci
u could probaly say
people wanna get like me
Hook:
But what they dont know is
when you go home and
get behind closed doors
man you hit the floor and
what they cant see is
you on yo knees
so the next time
you get it just tell em
Chorus:
Its the God in me [x5]
they think im so fresh
they think im so clean
they think im so sweet
Its the god in me [x3]
What is it you think you see
Verse 2:
see her style
think she nice
look at her whip
they say the whip tight
look at her crib
thinkin she paid
You look at her life
they think she's got it made
But everything she's got
the girl's been given
She calls it a blessing
but you call it living
When it comes to money
she can be a hero
She writes them checks
with a whole lot of zeros
Hook:
But what you don't know is
when she go home and
get behind closed doors
man she hit the floor
And what you can't see is
she on her knees
If you ask her she'll tell you
Chorus: It's the God in me (5x)
they think I'm so fresh
they think I'm so clean
they think I'm so sweet
It's the God in me [x3]
What is it you think you see
Kierra: What is it you think you see
When you see me, you see me
You don't know how much I pray
Don't know how much I gave
Don't know how much I changed
I'm just tryna explain
Chorus:It's the God in me (5x)
they think I'm so fresh
theythink I'm so clean
they think I'm so sweet
It's the God in me (x3)
What is it you think you see
So what do I do? I just find a comfortable seat and plug in my headset and listen to music, today I did the same and I was nodding to the song and the woman seating by my side was just starring at me wondering why am not affected by the noise around me.
I decided to be nice and share the particular song I was listening to.
It is a song by Mary Mary , titled God in Me
i just wanna tell the truth maine [x4]
Verse 1:
Your so fly, your so high
Everybody rinnin tryna figure out why
your so cool you been all the time
eveywhere you go man you get alot of shine
your like a magnet betta yet a habit
every thing you wear people say they gotta have it
from the sweatsuit
to the white tee
to the gucci
u could probaly say
people wanna get like me
Hook:
But what they dont know is
when you go home and
get behind closed doors
man you hit the floor and
what they cant see is
you on yo knees
so the next time
you get it just tell em
Chorus:
Its the God in me [x5]
they think im so fresh
they think im so clean
they think im so sweet
Its the god in me [x3]
What is it you think you see
Verse 2:
see her style
think she nice
look at her whip
they say the whip tight
look at her crib
thinkin she paid
You look at her life
they think she's got it made
But everything she's got
the girl's been given
She calls it a blessing
but you call it living
When it comes to money
she can be a hero
She writes them checks
with a whole lot of zeros
Hook:
But what you don't know is
when she go home and
get behind closed doors
man she hit the floor
And what you can't see is
she on her knees
If you ask her she'll tell you
Chorus: It's the God in me (5x)
they think I'm so fresh
they think I'm so clean
they think I'm so sweet
It's the God in me [x3]
What is it you think you see
Kierra: What is it you think you see
When you see me, you see me
You don't know how much I pray
Don't know how much I gave
Don't know how much I changed
I'm just tryna explain
Chorus:It's the God in me (5x)
they think I'm so fresh
theythink I'm so clean
they think I'm so sweet
It's the God in me (x3)
What is it you think you see
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
I love this song
I knew I love this song, but today as I listened to it all over again , I fell in love with it again, lyrics is amazing. I would highlight the verses that really ministered to me. For those of you who do not know the song, it a song used as a sound track of a Disney cartoon movie Pocahontas which was sung by Vanessa Williams and Ashanti
Colours of the Wind by Ashanti
You think you own whatever land you land on
The earth is just a dead thing you can claim
But I know every rock and tree and creature
Has a life, has a spirit, has a name
You think the only people who are people
Are the people who look and think like you
But if you walk the footsteps of a stranger
You'll learn things you never knew you never knew
Have you ever heard the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
Or asked the grinning bobcat why he grinned?
Can you sing with all the voices of the mountain?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind?
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/v/vanessa+williams/colors+of+the+wind_20143556.html ]
Come run the hidden pine trails of the forest
Come taste the sun-sweet berries of the earth
Come roll in all the riches all around you
And for once, never wonder what they're worth
The rainstorm and the river are my brothers
The heron and the otter are my friends
And we are all connected to each other,
In a circle, in a hoop that never ends
Have you ever heard the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
Or let teh eagle tell you where he's been
Can you sing with all the voices of the mountain?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind
How high does the sycamore grow?
If you cut it down, then you'll never know
And you'll never hear the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
For whether we are white or copper-skinned
We need to sing with all the voices of the mountain
Need to paint with all the colors of the wind
You can own the earth and still
All you'll own is earth until
You can paint with all colors of the wind
Colours of the Wind by Ashanti
You think you own whatever land you land on
The earth is just a dead thing you can claim
But I know every rock and tree and creature
Has a life, has a spirit, has a name
You think the only people who are people
Are the people who look and think like you
But if you walk the footsteps of a stranger
You'll learn things you never knew you never knew
Have you ever heard the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
Or asked the grinning bobcat why he grinned?
Can you sing with all the voices of the mountain?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind?
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/v/vanessa+williams/colors+of+the+wind_20143556.html ]
Come run the hidden pine trails of the forest
Come taste the sun-sweet berries of the earth
Come roll in all the riches all around you
And for once, never wonder what they're worth
The rainstorm and the river are my brothers
The heron and the otter are my friends
And we are all connected to each other,
In a circle, in a hoop that never ends
Have you ever heard the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
Or let teh eagle tell you where he's been
Can you sing with all the voices of the mountain?
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind
Can you paint with all the colors of the wind
How high does the sycamore grow?
If you cut it down, then you'll never know
And you'll never hear the wolf cry to the blue corn moon
For whether we are white or copper-skinned
We need to sing with all the voices of the mountain
Need to paint with all the colors of the wind
You can own the earth and still
All you'll own is earth until
You can paint with all colors of the wind
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
I have Found a New Passion
I have been going through some major milestone recently and it has really stretch my being.So i decided to do something new and exciting , and Viola i discovered i had a passion to cook, not just everyday cooking but trying out new and exciting recipes , have followed a lot of cooking blogs and i have also tired out new recipes, i also listen to this program on Inspiration Fm on Saturdays it think it is Uche can cook, before i forget i am addicted to FOOD channel on DSTV
So i made puff puff on Sunday, the puff puff came out really nice. i felt so proud and excited, so my weekends would be cooking weekends , not just cooking but cooking with passion.
The picture i took of the puff puff didn't come out well so i would paste a picture from someone else's so my friends who do not know what puff looks like would have an idea.
Ingredient
11/4 cups flour
1 tsp quick rise yeast
1/2cup sugar (adjust down or up for preference)
1/2 tsp nutmeg
1 cup lukewarm water
oil for frying
Direction
In a mixing bowl, combine the flour, sugar, yeast and nutmeg
with a whisk/ spatula in hand, add in the water while mixing
Once all the flour is worked in properly, cover the mixture with a table cloth. set aside for 3-4hrs
Set a large pot on medium heat, add in the oil.
Once the oil is hot ~ 5-6mins, Scoop the mixture with your hand or an icecream scoop, drop in the oil ( try not to crowd the pan)
Fry until golden brown turning occasionally.
Hope you find a passion too. love ya!
So i made puff puff on Sunday, the puff puff came out really nice. i felt so proud and excited, so my weekends would be cooking weekends , not just cooking but cooking with passion.
Ingredient
11/4 cups flour
1 tsp quick rise yeast
1/2cup sugar (adjust down or up for preference)
1/2 tsp nutmeg
1 cup lukewarm water
oil for frying
Direction
In a mixing bowl, combine the flour, sugar, yeast and nutmeg
with a whisk/ spatula in hand, add in the water while mixing
Once all the flour is worked in properly, cover the mixture with a table cloth. set aside for 3-4hrs
Set a large pot on medium heat, add in the oil.
Once the oil is hot ~ 5-6mins, Scoop the mixture with your hand or an icecream scoop, drop in the oil ( try not to crowd the pan)
Fry until golden brown turning occasionally.
Hope you find a passion too. love ya!
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Recipe for Chin Chin
hello people, i haven't blog for sometime have been busy and my mind not creative so i decided to get post from some of my favourite blogs, this lady i like what she is doing, when i want to cook something different for my family i visit her blog, so enjoy. her blog is http://littlemissgastronome.blogspot.com. visit her you would be hooked.
Ingredient
2 cups flour
1/2 cup butter (melted)
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup milk
1/2 tspn baking powder
Pinch of nutmeg
1 egg
Oil for frying
Direction
In a bowl, combing all the ingredients
Mix everything together until you have a dough
Roll out the dough, cut into whatever shapes you desire
set the oil on fire, fry a batch at a time until golden brown
Enjoy
2 cups flour
1/2 cup butter (melted)
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup milk
1/2 tspn baking powder
Pinch of nutmeg
1 egg
Oil for frying
Direction
In a bowl, combing all the ingredients
Mix everything together until you have a dough
Roll out the dough, cut into whatever shapes you desire
set the oil on fire, fry a batch at a time until golden brown
Enjoy
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
when do you know enough is enough
This issue of domestic violence is really rampant in this country,now Lagos state has an effective domestic violence law, but still women are suffering in silence afraid to speak out. my sister in law too suffered this same issue of domestic violence luckily her family took action fast before it became worse.
The question is.... why do women undergo such amount of cruelty from their husband and still decide to remain in the relationship ,i know the bible says until death do us part , it didn't say death in the hands of our husband or did it, if women could think about their children , no child deserves to be raised in a house of violence , a kid that experiencing violence most of the time turn out to become violent themselves or become an unbalanced kid. also the women should think about their life , they owe it to their children , and the world to be alive.
my heart aches from all these issues, Women need to stand up and be what God says we are , we the bearer of life, we keep mother earth alive and bubbling.
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